Bashing Your Head Against The Wall

You know, I used to wonder exactly what happened to the feminist movement. To me, it's as clear as day, what needs to be done. It's clear as can be that there are still significant strides to be made, that sexism hasn't been conquered in the least. I mean, just turn on the TV, and watch it for half an hour, and it's obvious from all the commercials, the television programs, and the films being played that alas, sexism and misogyny is still running rampant. Just read the news, and I dare anyone not to be disgusted by the amount of women being beaten, raped, killed, tortured, maimed, slaughtered, discriminated against by the millions daily. So I used to wonder, "What happened? Why did the movement seem to die off when it's still so necessary?"

Over the past couple of weeks, my questions have been answered. It has died off because quite frankly, trying to talk to people about the atrocities that women suffer daily is like bashing your head against the fucking wall.

I've tried talking to friends about it, and I get the same exact thing every time. "Well..." or "I don't know, but..." or "But men suffer, too!" or what's the worst, in my opinion... "But women are so much worse!"

Are you fucking serious? The worst part is that people actually say the last one with the straighest face. It's as if they just got the word from God itself that NEWS FLASH! WOMEN ARE DIRTY FUCKING WHORES WHO LIE AND CHEAT AND TRY TO KEEP THE POOR OPPRESSED MAN DOWN! WHO IS GOING TO SAVE THE POOR MENZ FROM THESE EVIL CASTRATING BITCHES?!

You know, I read the news daily, because I believe it's more important to be educated than it is to be comfortable, and it makes me sick to my stomach. I understand that for some women, it's not so simple or easy to fight against the patriarchy. I understand that for some women, it is necessary not only for their sanity's sake, but also for their survival, to appease the current social standard that does everything in their power to strip them of their humanity. I understand that for some women, it's too scary to fight the system, and instead prefers to cater to it. I understand why they do it. I understand that they think that by being good girls and doing exactly as they're told, by attacking other women, by being anti-feminist, this will give them a pass into the all Exclusive Righteous Dude Club, and that the dudes will forget about the fact that she has a vagina and will treat her as if she's an equal.

While I hate to be Debbie Downer here, the fact is that no matter what they do, what they say, this will never be a reality for them. The Exclusive Righteous Dude Club will NEVER accept them as one of their own. The dudes will throw these women under the bus every single time if it means that doing so will promote their sense of power, will protect their privilege, and will keep everything as they believe it should be. And yet these women STILL attack other women, still keep the saint/whore complex alive.

A lot of people think that the goal of feminism is to ensure that women are equal to men. But here's a radical thought; why the fuck do we want to be the same as men? Who the fuck decided that man is the default option, and anything different is automatically less than? I don't want to be just like a man, because quite frankly, they haven't proven over the course of the time that they're capable of even being HUMANE OR COMPASSIONATE. Even if they think that rape is wrong, even if they think that women should be paid equal wages, their silence says otherwise. Their silence and their unwillingness to point out the misogyny of their fellow man proves that it really doesn't matter that much to them, that women have been under attack for centuries, and CONTINUE to be attacked to this day.

But point any of this out, and you'd think that I just suggested filleting a group of babies and having them for dinner. I can't tell you how many times I've had "examples" of women being worse than men thrown in my face. Women are conniving, women are backstabbers, women ask for it, women rape men too, women beat men too, women aren't smart enough, women aren't this, women aren't that, blah blippity fucking blah. Trying to explain to people that women are socially conditioned to be in constant competition with each other, that women aren't afforded the same education opportunities as men gets tiresome. Asking irrational people to prove their claim that women rape men too by providing statistics is like asking your dog to solve quantum physics. Statistics? You mean the shit with numbers? Whuuuuuut?

So now I understand perfectly why the feminist movement took a major back seat. I understand why feminists just don't take the time to try and educate an unwilling population anymore.

It's not giving up. It's self-preservation.